Posted on May 01, 2020
We ALL have those little unconfident moments, even for the most ‘confident’. But I truly believe confidence is something that you grow and confidence comes with repeated practice. As someone who lacked confidence in certain areas at Uni (such as public speaking), I can safely say I have managed to push myself through to the other side. I am not saying I am 100% confident in these areas, but I have made serious improvement.
So, check out my tried and tested tips for those times that you are having a little confidence wobble:
1. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Is there something specific that you want to build confidence in, such as public speaking, presentations or interviews? Try easing yourself into these situations gradually. As the old saying goes ... practice makes perfect!
For example, I have always been nervous about public speaking, but it’s something I knew I had to do to grow FYI. So I made myself go to events alone (not with friends) and accept every invitation to speak in public (no matter how scared I was). If you go with friends to an event, you tend to hide behind them and not get your networking groove on! It’s all about throwing yourself into situations that seem scary, being strong and just getting on with it.
TOP TIP: Try setting yourself actionable and manageable tasks. If you are aiming to go to an event on your own, you don’t have to stay for the whole duration of the event. Set yourself the task of just talking to one stranger at the event or give three cards out and explain who you are and what you do. Then next time, add more. Just keep building.
2. YOUR OWN COMPANY IS THE BEST KINDA COMPANY
Getting comfortable with your own company, is seriously confidence enhancing. You would be surprised about how many people don’t like eating out alone for example, but it’s an integral part of adulting and a great life skill to behold.
Try and do these things by yourself and leave your phone in your bag!:
Eating out or grabbing a drink alone (SOOO Carrie Bradshaw!) If you can get comfortable with doing this you are onto a winner.
Go see a film at the Cinema. I LOVE this as you don’t have to share snacks!
Head to an exercise class. Sometimes scary but letting go in front of strangers and not worrying about your ability or skill will help confidence levels.
3. IT'S ALL AN ILLUSION
Presenting yourself with ‘confidence’ (even when you are s**ting yourself) can really help to get you to that place mentally. Say for example you have a scary interview ... Walk into that room as if you are confident (but not OTT); your body language is strong, you are prepared and have faith in your abilities, that will come across naturally.
TOP TIP: Scared about an interview? Remember they picked YOU for a reason. Go back through your work or application and remind yourself of your incredible ability.
4. EXERCISE FOR MENTAL STRENGTH
Exercising to keep yourself energised is key for confidence levels. We all know the benefits of keeping fit. Not only will it make you feel a bit more confident, it will also release those feel-good endorphins to make you feel happy. When you feel happy, you naturally feel confident and ready to smash life. Also, I know a gym class might feel a bit scary to some, but honestly throwing yourself into those situations will boost that confidence. Not super fit and worried about what people will think about you? Trust me, no one cares about what you are doing in a class!
TOP TIP: It’s great to do some exercise before something that you feel a bit scared by, such as an interview or presentation. Release those happy hormones and you will feel mentally stronger to battle the scary.
5. REMIND YOURSELF HOW GREAT YOU ARE
Feeling a bit rubbish about your creative ability? WELL DON’T. This is of my fave quotes: 'No-one is you and that is your superpower'. ALWAYS remind yourself of this. You will ALWAYS bring something new to the table. But it's great to re-state this; so go back though your achievements...
TOP TIP: Have look back through a project that you bossed, the portfolio that got you a job or internship, a successful uni tutorial report, an email from an employer saying how great you were...we tend to forget the good stuff and focus on the bad, so go and remind yourself about why you are so GREAT.
6. THE REVERSE TO-DO
We all love to make a to-do list at the start of the day, right? But sometimes once the day is finished and we haven't crossed everything off we feel a bit deflated and feel as if we haven't accomplished that much. This is not the case and most defiantly NOT productive. When you feel like you have accomplished things, we start to feel confident.
TOP TIP: Once you have finished your day, write down what you have done. No matter how, big or small the task, even the tiniest of tasks move us forward. Because remember honey, tasks such as clearing your emails IS a bloody achievement!
7. BODY POSTURE
How you walk out of your front door in the morning is really important. Quietly check you've got everything - the worst is being in an interview worrying about where you put your earphones!
TOP TIP: Before you leave home, straighten your spine, push your shoulders back and make the biggest SMILE. Then set your INTENTION for the day.
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